Archive for May, 2010

One scene in “She’s Out Of My League” really stands out… After years of heart ache, Stainer dashes off to confront Tina Jordan at the hot dog stand and ask why she dumped him. In his mind he was a 6. She was a 10. Stainer wanted her to admit he wasn’t good enough and that’s why she dumped him.

Tina Jordan responded, “You’re plenty good enough for me…you were just never good enough for YOU.”

Doesn’t that just pinch you in some way?

The movie kept reminding me of Alex Allman’s profound speech given at the Man Transformation seminar. In it, he talks about finding your Total 10. Total 10 as Alex defines it, is someone who just makes you feel awesome. When you’re with your Total 10 you feel like letting the best version of yourself come out and play.

Hopefully, you’re your partner’s Total 10 as well.

In the movie, Kirk (Jay Baruchel) is an average guy who meets the “perfect” woman Molly (Alice Eve), his Total 10. She’s into him. He’s into her. So what’s the problem? His total lack of confidence.

Kirk “occurs” to himself as not being good enough.

Let me explain what I mean by “occurs”. I learned it’s used in this way from Dave  Logan and Steve Zaffron, the authors of “3 Laws of Performance: Rewriting the Future of Your Organization and Your Life“. Occurs simply means how you perceive yourself. For example, if you’re nice and friendly in social situations while in the back of your mind you feel insecure and awkward, then how you occur to yourself is as someone who is insecure and awkward around people but can mask it really well. Others may think you’re comfortable and easy to be around. Never the less, you occur to yourself as an awkward person.

Kirk occurred to himself as not being good enough which led to the belief Molly was out of his league. “How can someone like her possibly fall for me?”

It’s amazing how the way we occur to ourselves truly affects our life. Here’s a wonderful, smart, funny, sexy woman–who is interested in him and he just couldn’t see past the way he occurred to himself. Yes, he was kind of a pushover, but the fact was she found him attractive because he was her total 10 in the making.

Many of these beliefs are reinforced by the people we socialized with. As in Kirk’s case, when his friends started to measure his attractiveness to women…their ideas got lodge into his beliefs. He started seeing himself as a “5″ and somewhat of a loser and not deserving the girl or much of anything for that matter.

It shows just how crucial your social groups are and how much they can affect you.

[Spoiler Alert]

Good news is at the end he finally shifted his view of himself and started to think how much he could be…and because of that and his willingness to take action he was able to break free from how he “occur” to himself…and ESCAPE a life of misery where he only accept what others give him.

Because he realized he wanted something different and tired of this rut. He was able to open up the possibility of something much more. He started to believe he could be more…that he could BE a Total 10 for himself.

I just love the ending as they hop into the plane together and flies off. It shows he was willing to become the best version of himself. By learning to become a pilot he finally grabbed the bull by the horn and achieved his dream. This very act shows there’s hope for their relationship. They were both growing and supportive of each other’s dreams in the relationship.

Overall, a very entertaining and a beautiful movie!

… And be sure to come back next week as I share with you one of my favorite technique from some truly great minds on “How to REWRITE Your Future!” Cut off that cord connection to your fixed belief or habit that’s actually limiting your growth and progress to who you want to become.

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I just received news from Alex that his special introductory price and BONUSES for “Revolutionary Sex For Her” will be gone this upcoming Sunday night, so I’m writing this to remind you of your last chance to take advantage of this limited offer going on right now.

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The reason that I like this program so much is that Alex focuses on 3 ESSENTIALS to having great physical intimacy in your relationship:

1.) Learning what men REALLY want and how they really think about sex… which turns out to be very different from what we read in the women’s magazines (of course).

2.) Powerful, detailed, and accurate information, exercises, techniques, and practices that a woman can use to “unlock” her own deepest pleasure during intimacy.

3.) A huge component of this program is all about confidence, body-image, and learning to fully accept ourselves as sexual beings.

And this portion of the program is just beautiful;  it’s not just more of the same old stuff we hear about learning to love ourselves.

With the help of top experts in psychology, female empowerment, and motivation, Alex delivers a true system for becoming a more confident, feminine woman who embraces her power.

So…

If you haven’t seen the video presentation that everyone’s talking about yet, or you haven’t downloaded Alex’s report about the most common mistakes women make in the bedroom, you can get them NOW by logging into the Revolutionary Sex Blog here:

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Until next time,
Faey
P.S. This special introductory package is only good until Sunday night.

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Funny story… Our car was heating up to the point where steam was shooting out of the hood like a boiling tea pot. It was crazy dangerous. We had to find the nearest parking lot we could find before our engine would burst into flames. Guess where we pulled over? The parking lot of a PORN SHOP… located in a busy area… during traffic hours. Man oh man, I was turning red with embarrassment when we stopped and parked there to wait for our car to cool down.

I remember my boyfriend had no problem being there. A very confident man and totally in touch with his own sexuality. But me–no kidding. My heart stopped and my whole body felt tight. And I secretly hoped none of my friends would see me (at least no one would recognize me).  I literally slid back in the passenger seat and refused to come out of the over heated car. Kinda crazy now that I think about it (it was hot and uncomfortable). All the cars slowing down to watch steam spray out of the car was no help either – and still I sat :-)

Ladies, I share this story with you because there are some of us who want to satisfy our sexual curiosity but just aren’t willing to be caught red handed at (of even near) an adult store. With that, I like to dedicate this post to Alex’s online sex revolution for you. Because from the comfort and privacy of your own home, you CAN still check out sex tips and read sex articles without feeling embarrassed and always having to look over your shoulder.

Could you be making one of these mistakes and not even know it…

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Because you deserve all there is. Sometimes you just want to let it all loose. Experience all the passion and pleasure you want without feeling guilty or restricted. And guess where’s the safest, most healthy place for you to do that? Your bedroom.

Have you ever caught yourself judging yourself? Feeling uncomfortable really being yourself?

Personally, when I read Alex’s report…I was kinda shocked really to find out a part of me was still feeling uncomfortable with my own body–especially around nudity. Yes, yes, yes… most of us have some degree of shyness about our naked bodies. But you know what, by starting to accept our body as it is and truly start to learn to love our body (our Total Self)…we can unleash our inhibitions in bed and really enjoy the fun and connection we’re meant to without self criticism and doubt.  I say however you can find to love your body and self more… DO IT! Because once you accept yourself more, the journey becomes more of an exciting adventure.

Alex has some exciting new stuff about how to build a passionate relationship and a passionate love life. Perhaps, a man can help us ladies feel comfortable enough to really explore this uncharted territory with our partner.

To get started… Alex has this cool FREE report exposing the top 10 Worst Mistakes Women Make In The Bedroom. Heck, maybe you’re not one of the women making these blunders in bed, but it would sure be nice to help out your girlfriends if they come to you for sex advice…

Visit Alex or tell your girls to get the FREE Special Reports, 10 Mistakes Women Make In Bed and other great articles here. This link will direct you to Alex’s website. Just put your email address on the box indicated on that page to get his amazing free reports.

Until next time,
Faey

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