Random Questions

“Does familiarity create contempt…such as in relationship? If a couple sees each other day after day..and one partner doesn’t change does that create contempt in the spouse?”

That’s a good question. It creates contempt, if the spouse was expecting their partner to change and saw that in their eyes they didn’t. Yet there’s more to it. Each situation differs because there’s so many components that make up the relationship… And relationships are complex. There may be many reasons why contempt could exist between them. It’s really up to the individual in the relationship WHY actually they are feeling contempt for the other.

Then you’ll get the true answers.

Take for example, a young adult about 18 years of age lives with his family. Then he goes off to college. Prior to that the young adult thinks very little of the parent. “My parent are strict, demanding, critical, such and such….and I just can’t stand them.”

And when the child moves out on his own and gain some experience of the world on his own… And perhaps a new perspective… Then comes back home for a visit.

He now sees them in a new light. Say, more gratitude…and appreciation for them and what they have done for him. That the parents after all did do their best… somehow, the kid was able to step back or in this case step away and gain put things in a new perspective.

Sometimes we are too close and immerse in the situation that we are blinded by what’s in front of us. We need to step back or even change our environment by moving out of it. And when we come back– things are refreshed and we can honestly and clearly see the change and the progress that has been made.